There Are Always Signs!

Two of my friends have very recently decided to end their 3 - year relationship... or rather, she decided to end it and there's nothing much that he can do about it. I guess it is kindda hard for us to start treating them as being individuals now, since they have always been 'together'. But then, it must be a lot harder on them.


So after a lot of "He said, She Said", it came down to this: She fell out of love with him. And naturally, being the one who fell out of love, it is a lot easier to move on...but he's still IN love and I guess after the shock wears off, its gonna get replaced by hurt and anger and maybe some hatred.


So naturally, this got me thinking again. Won't it be so much easier if people could figure out that things are just not working out, so that you can be prepared when the other half breaks the news finally? Not everyone gets the kind of meaningful relationships you want (love you baby!) and a lot of people are stuck with just 'passing time' with whoever they're with. Maybe there are signs, but a lot of us just don't wanna look at them. Maybe these would help?

• She introduces you to people as 'my friend' - especially after you been more than that for a heck of a long time!
• Your Incoming Calls dont have her number anymore...its only in Outgoing Calls.
• She doesn't hold your hand all of a sudden.
• Your dates have become either to the movies or a quick dinner.
• She says 'Me Too' when you say you love her.
• You don't know whats been happening with her days lately.
• She stops asking you anything personal.
• She sits and stands away from you at parties or when her friends are there.
• She laughs more with her friends than with you.
• She makes excuses when you ask her to go with you to a family function.
• Your conversations have become limited.
• She starts dressing up better when she's going out with her friends than with you.
• She's suddenly really busy - work, family, crises...
• She's been finding faults in you a lot.
• She snaps at you, finds you annoying, gets irritated easily suddenly.
• She stops calling to make up after a fight.
• She hasn't said she misses you in more than a month.
• She does things that annoys you on purpose.
• She drops hints about taking a break.
• She's been having headaches or not feeling well too often during your dates.
• She stops telling you where she's going or with who.
• Your calls reaches her voice mail more often.
• She's hardly online to chat with (coz you probably have been blocked).
• She talks about changing and changes.
• She seems like a different person now (that's coz she is)

Breaking up is never easy and right now watching the two of them trying to figure out where do they go from here makes it a lot more worse. So you know, there are always signs that someone isn't happy with you, or that the relationship has run its course. Its never easy to open your eyes to the signs, but I guess if you do it earlier, you won't be going through the crap he's going through right now.